🙋‍♂️ How can I motivate myself to solve problem X as X is detrimental to me but I just can’t be bothered as it doesn’t hurt? v.2021–04
TK Draft
Examples
E01. How do I stop myself from eating cakes after every meal?
NVC
- Every action is there to meet a need.
- Eating cake may be the most obvious strategy to meet the needs of Ease/Comfort right now.
- Reflecting on Strategy Fixation, there exists a strategy in this universe where my need for Ease/Comfort can be met without eating cakes.
- Taking a closer look at the cake question, “How do I stop myself…”, if your objective is to stop, you’re likely to fail. If your objective is to start, you’re more likely to succeed.
- What can you start doing that will meet your needs even more fully than a delicious cake? e.g. green tea, (decaf) espresso, walk, conversation, chat, breathing,
Strategy 01: Commitment Device
e.g. StickK.com; accountability with others
Strategy 02: Deliberately blocking time to reflect on the consequences.
Strategy 03: Make rewards more tangible right now
e.g. OKR
Strategy 04: Meet the need of Ease by “emotional painkiller”/refocussing
Summary
Generalising the generalisations here: focus management.
