The Ultimate Guide to Forgiveness v.2021–10

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  • AFL → Acknowledge, Forgive, Learn → Acknowledge, Frame, Learn

Premise-BEST

Everyone is doing the best that they can each moment given their genes and past experience.

Once we truly internalise Premise-BEST, we transcend from the land of rights and wrongs to the land of feelings and needs. Once we are in the pure land of Feelings and Needs, the word Forgiveness loses much of its conventional meanings and dissolves into a fruity cocktail of Feelings and Needs.

Suppose you had the same genes and past experience as the “offender”, you would have done exactly the same thing.

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