OOOPS, I actually wanted to listen, connect and feel you...

...BUT WHAT I DID INSTEAD WAS....

𝗔𝗗𝗩𝗜𝗦𝗜𝗡𝗚 / 𝗙𝗜𝗫𝗜𝗡𝗚: Hey, why don't you try this instead....

𝗢𝗡𝗘-𝗨𝗣𝗣𝗜𝗡𝗚: Pffff...that's nothing, do you know what happened to ME last week...?!?

𝗖𝗢𝗡𝗦𝗢𝗟𝗜𝗡𝗚: It was not you fault... you did the best you can in that situation....

𝗦𝗧𝗢𝗥𝗬 - 𝗧𝗘𝗟𝗟𝗜𝗡𝗚: That really reminds me of this time where I...

𝗦𝗬𝗠𝗣𝗔𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗭𝗜𝗡𝗚: Ohhhh, you poor thing, i feel so sorry for you!

𝗘𝗫𝗣𝗟𝗔𝗜𝗡𝗜𝗡𝗚: I would have called, but....

𝗖𝗢𝗥𝗥𝗘𝗖𝗧𝗜𝗡𝗚: Hey, that's totally not what happened here!!!

𝗜𝗡𝗧𝗘𝗥𝗥𝗢𝗚𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗡𝗚: When was that? How did that happen? Who was that person?

𝗥𝗘𝗜𝗡𝗙𝗢𝗥𝗖𝗜𝗡𝗚: You are totally right, why the hell did she do that? You should have...

I often notice how my patterns and fears keep me talking and talking to a friend and afterwards feel somehow empty and sad.

And when i take a moment afterwards I realize...I actually so much wanted to really connect, feel vulnerable, be seen, feel my friend. But I was unable, not daring or just did not notice my own pattern which keeps me in the "SAFE SPACE".

And i celebrate the moments when I dare, I open up, show myself, leave my comfort zone... and then...

𝗠𝗔𝗚𝗜𝗖 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻!

𝐃𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬, where you actually really want to connect to someone, listen from the heart and have a REAL connection and instead spend time talking from the head, advising, judging, asking, etc. etc.?

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹?