Making Tasks Interesting Using Nonviolent Communication (NVC): The Art of Motivation and Connection

Ben H
3 min readApr 14, 2023
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Most of us have faced tasks that seem boring or demotivating. This blog will discuss how you can make any task interesting and motivating by applying Nonviolent Communication (NVC) principles. We’ll use the example of generating a report for your boss to demonstrate the approach.

What is Nonviolent Communication (NVC)?

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a communication method that encourages open, empathetic, and collaborative interactions. It’s based on the idea of expressing oneself honestly, while also being compassionate and understanding towards others. NVC promotes a deeper connection between individuals, fosters cooperation, and helps in resolving conflicts.

Step 1: Connect with Your Needs

Identifying Your Needs

Identify the needs that the task fulfils for you. This may include:

  • Competence: Feeling skilled and capable in your role
  • Contribution: The desire to make a positive impact on your team or organisation
  • Growth: Opportunities for personal and professional development

Self-Empathy and Motivation

By focusing on how the task can be a source of personal satisfaction and self-improvement, you can tap into your intrinsic motivation. Acknowledge your feelings and emotions related to the task, and give yourself the empathy you need to stay engaged.

Step 2: Empathise with Others’ Needs

Understanding Others’ Perspectives

Put yourself in your boss’s shoes and consider the needs of your boss and the organisation. This might involve:

  • Decision-making support: Providing relevant data and insights for informed decisions
  • Demonstrating progress: Showcasing the work done and achievements made
  • Achieving goals: Contributing to the organisation’s overarching objectives

Building Empathy and Collaboration

By understanding the bigger picture and the importance of the task, you cultivate empathy towards your boss and coworkers. This deepens your sense of connection with them, and fosters collaboration and teamwork.

Step 3: Make Requests Aligned with Needs

Formulating Requests

Ensure that your requests (to yourself or others) are in line with the identified needs. For example:

  • Ask for assistance to gather the necessary data for your report
  • Request resources, such as specific tools or software, to create a high-quality report that serves its purpose
  • Seek feedback from your boss or team members to improve your work and better meet their needs

Engaging in Constructive Dialogue

By making requests that are aligned with your needs and the needs of others, you encourage a constructive and solution-oriented dialogue. This not only helps you achieve your goals more effectively, but also fosters a supportive and collaborative work environment.

Conclusion

By applying NVC principles, you can transform any task into an interesting and motivating experience. This approach fosters a deeper sense of connection and empathy, making work more enjoyable and rewarding. Ultimately, using NVC to make tasks interesting and motivating will contribute to your personal and professional growth, as well as the success of your organisation.

Are you looking for more guidance on motivation and communication? Schedule a free 30-minute consultation with me at calendly.com/bensonhoi to discuss your needs.

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Ben H

🕊 Consultant, Counselor, Mediator, Facilitator, Trainer on Nonviolent Communication. 🦒