Core
Deliver clear messages on a repetitive basis, through action and words.
Case: Teaching a child to build a habit of tidying and organising
NVC
Hey, Benny, I see that your toys are on the floor, I feel concerned about the stress it can bring you, do you feel annoyed when I share this with you?
Let’s tidy your room together. Having a tidy room is important for having a tidy and uncluttered mind. It helps us think more clearly and makes us feel more at peace if we live in a nice environment. See, that wasn't so hard. Next time, I can help you a tiny bit, but let’s see if you can do most of it by yourself.
Case: Teaching a child to build a habit of doing school work on time
Hey, Benny, I see that your homework isn’t finished , I feel concerned about the stress it can bring you, do you feel annoyed when I share this with you?
Version 01.
Let’s do the first exercise together. Keeping up with school work helps us get into a nice university and nice job. This helps financial independence a lot and life will be so beautiful. See, that wasn’t so hard. Next time, I can help you a tiny bit, but let’s see if you can do most of it by yourself.
Version 02.
I know school is boring and it’s more fun to play with your friends. I thought the same when I was your age.
But we can still have fun with our friends and do well at school. Our society puts great importance on education when giving us the best start in life. Education is how society gives the best jobs to people and gives them a higher status in our society.
So I know school might be boring, and you might think it’s often pointless and a waste of time. I also thought so at your age. But it is important to persevere. There are more important things in life than feeling good at the moment and playing with friends. Doing well at school keeps your options open in life. And after you do your homework you will have time to have fun with friends.
